Life: Friendship

Last Saturday I met up with a friend who I haven't seen for 10 years. 10 whole years! C and I had met when we were 16 and had one of those wonderfully intense best friend relationships where you talk on the phone for hours, are giddy whenever you're together and are completely inseparable. For a number of reasons we grew apart and have only kept in touch over occasional messages over the last decade, but on Saturday we went for lunch and caught up on our lives, both admitting that our friendship was something we both often think about and remember as a really special time. 

It got me thinking about friends and how important these kind of relationships are - complicated, loving and such a big part of life. Someone I know put something on Instagram recently which really resonated with me - she said 'there's friends and there's family, and there are friends who become family and family who become the best of friends'.

At the age of 30 I feel I really know who my friends are and so wanted to write about how they've fit in my life, and whether they're still in it. Also on a bit of a side note - am very excited to read Dolly Alderton's new book 'Everything I Know About Love' and 'The F Word' by Lily Pebbles - both which have a focus on friendship.

The School Friends

What a special bunch my school friends are - there are only a small group of 4 of us but we've remained so tight over the years and whilst we'll spend time reminiscing on old times we're also talking every day about books we've read and what we're up to that weekend. We have so many memories together - seeing each other in the canteen every day at college and obsessing over boys from the table we always sat at (and giving them ridiculous nicknames), going on holiday to Newquay and sharing the most tiny room between 5 of us and the regular sleepovers and house parties.

We've truly grown up together, through every questionable fashion phase, learning to drive and discovering mobile phones, iPods and the wonderful world of MSN. Now we are all 'grown-up' (sort of) with mortgages, partners and babies on the way and it's another new adventure for us.

The Uni Girls 

At Uni, My friends and I would always talk about how you'd be lifelong friends if you get past the 7 year mark. We're now at 12 years so I think we can safely say we'll be friends for life! Uni friends are pretty unique as you spend so much time together. Most of our courses were fairly light lecture wise so there was lots of time spent on the sofa, attempting to write essays and watching Hollyoaks. We laughed together, cried with each other and spoke about everything imaginable. We couldn't watch a TV show without talking the whole way through. 

My favourite times at Uni were the impromptu nights out. We'd scoff our dinners, and then all head to our rooms to get ready together with music blasting. Having access to so many wardrobes and make-up was the best! We'd always make sure to take a digital camera out with us and would take over 300 photos each night, which we'd go through the morning after and put most of them on Facebook. Those were the days!

Over the years it's become harder to see each other regularly, as we are all living in different parts of the country and two of the girls are in Portugal and Australia, but we talk all of the time and see each other a couple of times a year - usually for the next wedding! 

The Boyfriend's Besties

I've known Chris' best mates for almost as long as he has, as we met in our second year of Uni when he lived in the flat above me! Over the past 12 or so years they've stayed just as friendly so I've got to know them really well and count them as friends myself. What's been really lovely is that as more girlfriends have joined the crew, we've become a really close gang and will often go out for drinks and dinners, and for trips away together.

 It's a great mix of people as the boys can take themselves off, and the girls can chat and chill out together. It helps that we've all been living in London for the past few years, although everyone is gradually moving out so changes are ahead. We'll be hosting weekends in the country at each others houses, rather than meeting in London restaurants.

We are all off to Cape Town at the end of March and everyone is very excited for this big friend holiday.

The Work Friends 

I find work friends so fascinating, as I find that you spend so much time together and know so much about each others lives. You'll come into the office and tell them about your evening, what you ate, what you argued with your husband detail is spared! May be just speaking for my own team here who are massive over-sharers (just how I like it!). Then you'll leave the company and you'll not speak to them again!

At every place I've worked, I've been lucky to have always made a great group of friends who have been a huge part of my time at the company and who I've loved going for work drinks with. I feel like most work friends will be there for a certain time of your life and then others who stick around and make it to proper friend status. I've got over a handful of friends through my years of work who I know I'll be in touch with for a long time.

Daisy x

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